Let Go of My Ego?

I have studied literature in leadership and spirituality andbe admired, what lasting value are you creating?
have found a common thread. The common thread isWould others do well to follow the example you set?
this: if you want to be successful and fulfilled you needDoes your example inspire others to express their
to keep your ego in check.own greatness?
The ego is that part of us that is always asking: "ButA recent book, Made to Stick (Heath and Heath),
what about me?" or saying "Look at me!" The lessonmentions studies that have shown that people who
I've found in these fields of study and in my own life islisten to a charismatic speaker often can't remember
that when we focus on our ego needs we can, atanything the speaker said. Speakers who were
best, create a temporary success. Often our ego getsmemorable, that is, their message stuck, were able to
in the way, creating pain and suffering. If we want toconnect with their audience through anecdotes and
build a good life, a good company, or a goodwell structured messages.
relationship, we need to take the focus off ourIt is the ego in us that has us placing premium value on
individual need to win, to be right, or to receive theegocentric personalities to lead us and be our models.
glory.Data and experience suggest that we might better
Jim Collins, author of Good to Great, did extensivefocus on doing what we do well. It suggests that we
research to find companies that achieved greatness.might focus our attention on building up others,
He found companies that had been mediocre formentoring, and helping them. It suggests that the playing
years and then became great companies, creating afield may be more level than we thought, that anyone
sustainable success. These companies outperformedcan build success if they can step outside of their ego
their competitors several times over. Collins found thatand do something well. Charisma and attractiveness
all of the leaders of these great companiesare as much liabilities as they are assets.
demonstrate "a paradoxical blend of personal humilityHumility, channeling one's energy in to something bigger
and professional will. They are somewhat self-effacingthan the self, cocreation, clear focus, and
individuals who deflect adulation, yet who have anconnectedness to others--these are all traits that fall
almost stoic resolve to do absolutely whatever it takesinto the realm of spirituality. These traits don't seem to
to make the company great, channeling their egofit with today's idea of great leadership--the swash
needs away from themselves and into the larger goalbuckling, egotistical, celebrity who swoops in and saves
of building a great company."the day, the superstar athlete, or the charismatic
These leaders, according to Collins, look in the mirror,speaker. Yet, we see that the true winners of today,
directing their attention to themselves when problemsthe highly successful leaders, possess these traits.
arise. They take full responsibility. When successesIf you are a leader, focus on leading well. Don't make
occur they look out their window, directing praise andthe organization dependent on the force of your
credit to those who serve with them. These leaderspersonality, but create systems and structure that
work in concert with other leaders to cocreate a greatpromote success and well-being. When we shift our
organization. (References to Jim Collin's work found infocus from looking good and self glorification to serving
the article, "The Misguided Mix-Up of Celebrity andwell, and to doing the best possible work, we create
Leadership" found at in the articles section)organizations, products, and services that are both
In 1978, in Superbowl XXII, the highly touted Denvergreat and sustainable. You probably aren't going to get
Broncos football team were beaten by the Dallasrid of your ego anytime soon, but you will need to
Cowboys. The Cowboys played with precision andtranscend it often if you want to be truly successful in
focus, executing plays that were impossible to defend.what you do.
After the game, one of the Broncos said: "Dallas beatDid you find this article useful?  For more useful tips
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