| "Almost all of those eBooks about making money | | | | - Your confidence can be shaken to the core and you |
| online have one solution in common: In order to | | | | can be blinded by fear. Dr Goldsmith says one of the |
| succeed online, you have to create and sell your own | | | | best tools for dealing with this is to imagine the worst, |
| information products. | | | | then the best, then imagine what is most likely to |
| That is it in a nutshell. Write your own eBooks and sell | | | | happen and hold onto that thought. |
| them. Best of all, get OTHERS to sell them." (email | | | | - When anxiety strikes remember that you have dealt |
| from Paula Brett, Mon, Apr 12, 2010. Paula is the | | | | with similar occurrences before and that you have the |
| wonderful Helpdesk person for those doing John | | | | tools to get through this one. Sit down, take a few |
| thornhill's Masterclass - something I strongly | | | | deep breaths and think through what is worrying you. |
| recommend you do as soon as it opens again in 2011). | | | | Chances are you already have the answers you need |
| Finding a product has been by biggest anxiety and | | | | and when you calm down you will see them. (When I |
| 'discourage-er' in my online marketing efforts. | | | | think one of my chief anxieties in life - not enough |
| All the ramifications are mind-blowing. One I tried was | | | | money - I can see that nothing really bad has |
| reviewing and recommending various guitar courses. | | | | happened because of lack of money. I have never |
| Using PPC I even got on page 1 of Google. No sales. | | | | been hungry, never lost my house, etc. So what has |
| Best keywords for Do-It-Yourself? No sales. | | | | been the use of my anxiety?). |
| Etc. | | | | Really we should almost embrace anxiety, I guess, |
| Now I have thought of 'it' - I am an expert when it | | | | because without it life would be flat and meaningless |
| comes to knowing how it feels to be anxious, so my 'it' | | | | and boring. |
| is "Anxiety". Having decided the material just keeps | | | | Embracing it in the right way is the trick, I am sure. We |
| leaping out at me. It is the same as when somebody | | | | need the right strategies. |
| says have you seen the new red Volkswagen - | | | | And since some people say they do not suffer much |
| suddenly there are new red Volkswagens | | | | from anxiety what can we learn from these and |
| everywhere. | | | | experts such as Dr Wayne Dyer? Plenty. |
| I communicated my plan to my fellow Masterclass | | | | He has seven questions for ridding ourselves of an |
| students. The encouraging comments and actual | | | | excuse-ridden (and anxious) life. I thoroughly |
| material I can use (the anxieties of Masterclass-ers) | | | | recommend you read the book because an in-depth |
| just keep coming. | | | | look at his seven questions is beyond the scope of this |
| Next there was an interesting article in the Brisbane | | | | essay. However, here are the questions: |
| Courier Mail entitled "Anxiety can serve us well" (April | | | | 1) Is it true? He suggests the vast majority of the |
| 6, 2010). Since the Courier Mail is a Rupert Murdoch | | | | thoughts that run through our minds each day are |
| paper the article may have appeared in London, New | | | | untrue (especially those we use to make excuses). He |
| York and Moscow too for all I know. Since I thought it | | | | gives ways of riding ourselves of these thoughts. |
| a good article I will discuss it here. | | | | 2) Where did the excuses come from? He says we |
| The author is Barton Goldsmith. There was no further | | | | should identify the source of our excuses and cut |
| information on Barton in the paper, but, in the Google | | | | ourselves off from it. |
| age I soon found the following: | | | | 3) What is the payoff? We find we get some kind of |
| "Dr Barton Goldsmith is a California-based marriage | | | | payoff from using these excuses, such as not 'really' |
| and family therapist and the author of Emotional | | | | failing. We need to eliminate it. |
| Fitness at Work." | | | | 4) What would my life look like if I could not use these |
| He begins by saying "Many people think they should | | | | excuses? This one is fairly self-explanatory, I think. |
| live anxiety-free. Not so. Anxiety is part of the human | | | | 5) Can I create a rational reason for change? He gives |
| condition." | | | | four criteria: (i) it must make sense; (ii) It must be doable |
| He goes on to cover the following ideas: | | | | (iii) It must allow you to feel good. (iv) It must be aligned |
| - It is important to remember (anxiety-creating) | | | | with the callings of your soul. |
| challenges lead to growth and development as human | | | | 6) Can I access universal cooperation in shedding old |
| beings. (My thought: I guess we were all anxious about | | | | habits? Dr Dyer says the 'Cardinal Virtues' that come |
| leaving our mothers on our first day of school. If we | | | | from God are:a) Reverence for lifeb) Natural |
| had not met and overcome this anxiety I suppose we | | | | sincerityc) Gentlenessd) Supportiveness |
| would remain emotional 5-year-olds). | | | | We need to strive to make these part of our being. |
| - Anxiety lets us know when something is not quite | | | | 7) Having 'made it' how do I continuously reinforce this |
| right for us. (Bit tricky, this one. When is it 'not quite right' | | | | new way of being? Again, self-explanatory, I think. |
| and when are we just 'chickening out'). | | | | Of course I can only give you the barest bones on |
| - The trick is to learn to use anxiety in positive ways. | | | | what Dr Dyer has to say. I really do recommend you |
| The first thing is to imagine what the payoff will be | | | | buy his books for yourself. The two I have read (and |
| when you surmount this challenge. (This relates to | | | | am reading) are available from Amazon and you can |
| what Dr. Dyer has been saying in his book "Excuses | | | | find them on my blog. |
| Begone!). | | | | I will have my book ready by the end of June on how |
| - Feeling excited/scared can be fun. Think of dates | | | | to deal with your anxiety. I intend to then turn it into a |
| when you were young or going on certain rides in a | | | | video and set up a membership site (since I think |
| fun park. This is definitely anxiety most of us enjoy. | | | | anxiety is a lifelong affair, 'treatment' needs to be |
| - But if we are anxious pretty much the whole time it is | | | | ongoing). You can check on progress by going to my |
| a different story and we should do something about it. | | | | blog address. |
| (My problem for most of my adult life, but definitely not | | | | Of course, there are a million books and articles on |
| something we were encouraged to 'do something | | | | anxiety and how to deal with it. |
| about'. The family doctor would just tell you to get on | | | | Will mine be any different or better? |
| with life, which I guess is pretty good advice anyway, | | | | Yes - it will be my relationship with the reader, and that |
| but it would have been nice to have been given a few | | | | will be unique. |
| strategies for doing this). | | | | |