| "If self-healing is all about 'feeling the love,' then why do | | | | problem you don't want to have. |
| I feel so crummy?" | | | | This is extremely cool news! |
| One of the first things that tends to happen when a | | | | You were doing the behavior anyway. In the past you |
| person really gets in touch with their capacity for | | | | were oblivious. Not only did you not recognize the cost |
| self-healing is that they develop a very keen eye for | | | | of the behavior to your health and well-being, you |
| everything they appear to do "wrong." There's | | | | weren't really aware you were doing it. Now you've |
| sometimes even a temporary sense of self-defeat as | | | | begun to entertain a connection between the target |
| a person begins to see clearly the common mistakes | | | | behavior and a result you don't want. In the past, you |
| in their thoughts and actions. | | | | had nary a clue about how this unwanted situation |
| For example... | | | | came to rear its ugly head in your life. Now you're |
| - A person whose healing process from neck pain | | | | tuned in. |
| includes lifting into an upright posture suddenly notices | | | | Pat yourself on the back. This is great! Awareness of |
| how much they slouch. | | | | the process is a huge step in the direction of healing it! |
| - Someone who's minimizing sweets to stabilize their | | | | Put differently, your chances of healing a troubling |
| blood sugar suddenly notices how automatic their | | | | symptom or situation are next to nothing until you begin |
| "treat as reward" wiring is. | | | | to work out what's causing it. Now you know. |
| - Someone learning to meet their own needs first to | | | | "You may not be able to fix it, but at least you can |
| stem an energy hemorrhage may notice an | | | | own it." |
| exceptionally strong compulsion to please others. | | | | Granted, you've still got a ways to go. Awareness |
| - A person whose healing process from hopelessness | | | | alone is generally not enough. But it is truly a huge step. |
| and depression involves becoming more objective | | | | At the very least, you'll no longer be tempted to |
| about things they previously would have taken | | | | unintentionally deceive yourself by pretending you don't |
| personally may feel that people are "coming at them" | | | | know where the challenge is coming from. |
| from all directions. | | | | Ultimately, you'll begin to develop some strategies for |
| It's kind of like that phenomenon of the lime-green | | | | dealing with this newfound awareness. |
| Volkswagen Beetle. You get the "bug" for a lime-green | | | | - Our slouching friend with the neck pain will learn a |
| Beetle, thinking it will be completely unique on the road. | | | | new habit of lifting to her full height. |
| Next time you drive to work, you see no less than | | | | - Mr. Sweet-Seeker may try substituting nuts for |
| three of them between home and the office. Where | | | | candy, or even begin to learn about non-food options |
| did they all come from? | | | | for self-care. |
| Your attention for lime-green Beetles has been | | | | - An energy leak can be stemmed by distinguishing |
| elevated. Now that you're looking for them, you notice | | | | that self-approval is preferable to approval by others. |
| them everywhere. | | | | (Ultimately that certain others will come to admire |
| Here's the question, though. Are there really a lot more | | | | self-approval directly, though it may involve finding a |
| lime-green Volkswagen Beetles on the road today | | | | healthier group of friends.) |
| than there were yesterday? No, of course not. The | | | | - The Objectivity Seeker will come to realize that |
| difference is you. Now you're looking for them. | | | | people do things for their own reasons, not simply to |
| Yesterday, you weren't. | | | | irritate her. |
| Same thing with how you're suddenly noticing all these | | | | You will develop your process, too. For today, though, |
| so-called faults. You were doing all that stuff anyway | | | | try this. Bring yourself up to your full height. Take your |
| before. Now you've had a breakthrough burst of | | | | right hand and cross it over your left shoulder. Give |
| awareness. You've suddenly seen the light about how | | | | yourself a hearty pat on the back. Healing awareness |
| something you were doing anyway contributed to a | | | | rocks! |