| Copyright (c) 2009 Lucille Uttermohlen | | | | insightful and intelligent. Could life really be this |
| And so it was asked, "Do infants enjoy infancy as | | | | wonderful? What happens next? |
| much as adults enjoy adultery?" Do cheaters really | | | | You stop working on your relationship with your |
| enjoy what they are doing? Is it the new relationship, or | | | | spouse. He / she doesn't understand you, and all you |
| the risk of getting caught that appeals? Too many | | | | do is fight anyway. Your new relationship with your |
| cheaters don't want to end their marriages to conclude | | | | friend is such a relief that you find yourself wanting to |
| that an affair always signals a desire for a divorce. | | | | spend more and more time with him / her. Maybe your |
| But, is it ever a good thing? | | | | marriage was a big mistake. Still, you're not sure you |
| Before you indulge in what the Bible and most of | | | | want to end it. After all, you are comfortable with your |
| society calls adultery, make sure you understand what | | | | spouse, and you do have kids and bills together. You |
| you're doing, and why you're doing it. Otherwise, you | | | | can juggle both relationships. Your new friend can't |
| may be in for a nasty surprise. Your spouse may | | | | expect you to give yourself fully, and your spouse |
| actually dump you on your ..., and even if he / she | | | | doesn't know anything different. This could work. What |
| doesn't, few marriages survive an affair in tact. | | | | happens next? |
| Think of this. Maybe you are attracted to another | | | | Your spouse doesn't believe that you had to work late |
| person because things in your marriage aren't going so | | | | again. You never had to before, and it's not like your |
| well. Is this because your spouse is a nut case, a jerk | | | | pay checks are reflecting a lot of overtime. He / she is |
| or a devil? Maybe, but usually the problem is that he / | | | | angry, and you feel more and more that your cheating |
| she and you have stopped talking to each other. So | | | | is justified. In fact, you are pretty well convinced that |
| what happens next? | | | | your affair is your spouse's fault. If he / she didn't ... you |
| Let's say you work with someone who is always | | | | would have been faithful. You wouldn't have needed |
| pleasant. This person seems to like you a lot,, and hints | | | | to go outside of your marriage for love if you were |
| that things can go further if you are interested. You | | | | getting it at home. What happens next? Maybe your |
| think of your spouse who has been a bit cranky lately. | | | | new friend wants more from the situation then you |
| You can't seem to make him / her understand what a | | | | are able to give. After all, it is lonely having dinner by |
| terrific person you are, but this new friend seems to | | | | yourself because your lover's son has a soft ball |
| get it. Suddenly, you have started having coffee | | | | game, or the in-laws are visiting from out of town, and |
| together, flirting by the water cooler, and finally, you | | | | your lover has to stay home and act like nothing's |
| have a date, if you can get away from home. | | | | wrong. Your new friend doesn't see you as an |
| This new person is great company. He /she gives you | | | | occasional playmate. He / she expects you to divorce |
| confidence, and makes you feel happy. You can tell | | | | so that you will be free to build a life with him / her. |
| him / her anything, and not only does he / she listen, | | | | You don't want the affair to end, so you keep |
| but he / she agrees with you 100%. Your jokes are | | | | promising that things will be different as soon as ... |
| always funny to this new person, and your ideas are | | | | happens. So, what does happen? Stay tuned. |